Not too Late to Start

[rudeawakening]

I'll explain a little bit about myself.

I come from a narrow-minded Indian background, basically parents who truly believe and stress that even flirting is wrong. Not to over exaggerate, but I was brought up to be socially shy and even though I am 19 years old now, have not even so much as flirted. I have gotten to the point where I socialize more than I used to, but the gap between me and other and my lack of just sitting back and watching has got to me.

After all, I never wanted a life like this, but I chose to accept it. I used to tell myself, it was not my fault: "my parents brought me up this way, they scrutinize my every move." Though that may have been true, it is immature, and my life is in my hands. Though I am scared, I am ready to throw away all preconceptions and try.

My first goal is to get over approach anxiety, but I want to keep getting better in all aspects of game. I will try to put myself out there. I do not want to be fed to but if anyone is willing to help me, I'll definitely take the advice. Second, if there are other indian or asian people who have been through a similar situation( you have not even dated for e.g.) I would like to meet you and learn more about you. I say this, just because I want to understand how you got over your issues and improved, because I find it fascinating, and for not other reason at all. Thanks for reading.

[elcaptain]

I totally understand where you're coming from and yes while some of the blame is in your hands your parents fucked up a good part of your life until age 16 (or around the age you feel that you were mature enough to control your life).

I went through a similar situation where subconciously I got my validation from being "shy" and a "nerd". Put it all behind you now and start reading Mystery Method and trying some techniques around campus or any where.

As far as approach anxiety is concerned you can never get over it since its built into all of us. Even PUAs have approach anxiety, its one those premetive mechanisms our ancestors have left with us back in the days when there used to be tribes.

[rudeawakening]

Thanks dude. It feels good to know I have support. I got your PM as well, I am going to get that book read as soon as I can. The one thing I am worried about is, isn't Mystery Method's supposed to be so overused that a lot of the people already know the materials/lines, including girls? Doesn't the same thing apply with the Game? I have never read both but if both are overused I wouldn't want to. What do you consider one really good book? Because there is a lot of stuff out there that is either old or repititive, from what I have heard.